Until recently i bared the ignorance of a child it seems. This whole feeling of love/like and the dynamics that create and build romantic relationships has taught me alot lately. Everyone should know, and i think most do know, that both parties need to love themselves before being able to properly love someone else. The energy that you give them will be that much more fulfilling should you have yourself put together, you're not broken and not carrying any baggage or insecurity that could hinder you from taking this special person in. It sounds cliche but despite that it's quite true.
I always knew of this information but i guess i had no clue about the magnitude of it's role. Ignorant thinking had me believe that showing a person that may be broken or insecure the light, that I myself can pull this person out. While in some cases people have had someone there to show them something real and have them realize they are greater, it's not a for sure result that they'll think likewise. Although your actions and words may speak of them being greater than what they may think, and the supportive nature can seem like all that this broken person needs. The love for themselves will only brew from within. By no means do i think that this base of support should stripped. It's just that until they believe it for themselves your words have none if any, little effect.
I wish that it was just that simple. Just by letting them see what kind of person you are, and from there also letting them know what you see in them it can be all good. By treating them as they should treat and think of themselves that they'll give into that same perspective. You would think that any person would be willing to accept such positive energy into their lives. It's weird and surprising that having someone around that wants to show you that you're so much better than you know, would be that hard to swallow. But reality has this written in it's own code. Good intentions and good nature can't always prevail since the focus is within another. They need to want to support themselves for this external reinforcement to have any value.
Of course none of us are perfect. We all have something that we may not like about ourselves or maybe events in our lives or how we handle things that we're not particularly proud of. But from accepting what we cannot change and pressing on, you transcend. Hopefully everyone can someday love themselves because that's where it matters most.